Our dedicated counselors will assist your teen through the difficult transition through adolescence. Counseling helps parents and teens understand how to cope with behavioral issues that cause division in families. Counseling also equips parents in knowing how to deal with complex attitude, emotional and behavioral issues that include oppositional defiance and anger issues. Counseling will help your teen through peer pressure, overcoming bullying, identifying and removing triggers that cause cutting behaviors, suicidal thoughts/ideations, and self harm. Other concerns that will be addressed include overcoming root issues related to eating disorders and coping with the life transitions related to divorce or single parent homes.
Divorce can affect a teens psychological, spiritual, emotional and academic state. The National Education Longitudinal Study shows that teens scored lower in both math and reading starting a year before their parents separated. In my opinion, this shows how they pick up the distress in the home well before any physical changes take place. Each teenager will react to their parent’s divorce in a unique way. Common behavior changes can occur due to the change in family dynamics.
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These behaviors can occur due to unmet needs of the teenager. When parents are in conflict, attention can be limited to their teen’s needs and wants. Their teen may not know what to do with his/her emotions and just seek relief. Unfortunately, negative outlets for stress and activities that help the teen “numb out” are always available. Parents should be encouraged to keep the lines of communication open with their teen. It is important to let them know it is not their fault. It is best to keep normal schedules for teens to follow without too many disruptions. For example, if a teen is an athlete, a balanced schedule must be set for homework, social life, family time and church life. When a teen is thrown off schedule and not held accountable for their time, they will fall into activities and find people that will fulfill their needs outside of the family. Most often, these relationships can be destructive and dangerous.
Parents should be aware that the most common root of anger in their teen is a fear of loss. Your teen may be very afraid of losing their identity, freedom, respect, love, attention, support, safety, and security. Teens thrive on stability, consistency and structure.
Having a nurturing, structured schedule that is predictable and consistent creates the much needed safety and security to appease anger and fear. Students from Preschool through college undergo pressures of all kinds. Pressures felt are much different then when their parents grew up, and is continuing to worsen. The breakdown of the family is the root of many troubles. Either mom is out of the picture, dad is absent, frequent moving, deployments out of the country, new schools, lack of supervision, lack of emotional connection and a host of other instability creates a toxic environment for the teen who is also battling chemical changes related to hormones in their body. The results of instability cause anger outbursts in teens because they do not know what to expect next or what to do with their changing emotions. Sometimes they turn to drugs, alcohol, sex and other negative behaviors to numb the pain and get their mind off their fears and insecurities. Many teens will act out causing their parents to react in anger. This anger in parents is rooted in fear of their teens behavior and how to handle it. The following 5 steps can help parents bring the needed stability to their home to relieve anger.
If your teen comes home from a party and appears to be intoxicated, it is generally best to deal with the consequences in the morning after they have slept off the effects. If the teen comes home intoxicated and had the car for the evening, the keys should be taken away from them immediately and they should have driving privileges removed. Many states have zero-tolerance laws for under-age drinkers who drive. This means that any measurable amount of alcohol in their system will earn them a DUI and the serious consequences of that charge.
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